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Mommy Time {Book Review}

Disclosure: This could be a sponsored post or contain affiliate links (which means I earn a percentage of the sale), but all opinions are strictly my own.

I can remember the first night we came home with our first little boy from the hospital.  He had been in the NICU for a week since he was born a month early, so our transition into parenthood was a bit choppy to say the very least.  We made the hour-long drive home up the long, windy hill with speeds that were incredibly too fast for our new baby, and we got settled back into our home as a little family.  About an hour after we got back, my husband left to go pick up our dogs who had been staying at a friend’s house while we were gone, and I was scared out of my mind.  What would I do if my baby boy cried??  What if he needed something, and I couldn’t figure out what do to??  What if he stopped breathing??

In the end, I sat on the floor holding my bundle of joy and watched The Biggest Loser for the first time.  I was petrified and couldn’t come up with anything better to do than just sit there and hold him.  I still have fond memories of that moment, even though I was scared and lonely and so completely overwhelmed with my new life.

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The book Mommy Time by Sarah Arthur came at the perfect time for me, as I’m prepping myself for the thought of being a “new” mom again.  Mommy Time is a compilation of 90 daily devotionals, all focusing on different parts of motherhood.  Each of the daily devotionals gives great insight to the role and calling of being a mother, and most include personal experiences from the author (always my favorite!) as well as a scripture or spiritual connection.  Many times I was crying from being able to so completely relate to the exhaustion or the feelings of inadequacy that come from being a first-time mom, and other times I was crying from laughter.

I read this book over the course of a couple of days, but I could imagine one sitting down and finishing it at one time or taking a full 90 days (or longer!) to enjoy each piece of writing.  This book would be an excellent book for those who are preparing for motherhood or are in the throes of motherhood already; it would also make the perfect baby shower gift to give to a friend or family member.

**I received this book to review from the Tyndale Blog Network, but all opinions are strictly my own.

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Q&A with author, Sarah Arthur:

 What is your hope for this book, Mommy Time? One of the best ways I’ve found to stay balanced during the crazy transition of motherhood has been to talk with other moms. And that’s what I hope this book is: a conversation, a story, one new mom sharing with other new moms what God is doing in her life. In that sense it’s less a devotional book than a memoir, or maybe a devotional memoir, tracking my spiritual reflections during the first three months of my son’s life.

Tell me about the personal experience(s) that prompted you to write such a book. As a new mom, I felt totally overwhelmed by bringing a human being into our lives, not to mention all my bodily changes and the relentlessness of caregiving. Yes, there are lots of joys! But motherhood is hard. I thought it was important to be honest about that. So often Christians are tempted to sugarcoat their experience and cover it up with sentimentality. I wanted to open up a space for other moms to acknowledge their experience and say, “God is okay with the fact that I’m having a hard time. And God is here.”

How do you carve out time to spend in God’s Word in your busy life? I’ll be honest, whatever pattern of “quiet time” many Christians idealize was not invented by new moms. There have been seasons in my life when I deeply, intensely studied Scripture— through Bible classes in college, getting a master’s degree in theology, reading certain books, and attending certain small groups. But during this new season, I have had to draw from the well of those experiences rather than carve out new ones. I have had to tell myself, “Holding this child is what God has for me right now.” If I can free up one arm so that I can read a good devotional book, even better.

How did you write this book as a busy new mom? Why was it important for you to do so? A major shout-out to my husband and my son’s grandparents: I could not have written this book without them. When Micah was tiny, I didn’t write a thing. But writing is in my blood, in my bones. It’s one of the ways I connect with God. So in those early days, I couldn’t help thinking, “I’ve got to remember this moment, this thought. I need to write it down someday.” Once we finally settled into a routine, and I had childcare lined up, the writing began—and so did the opportunity to breathe, to spend time in God’s presence. It was a gift.

God is in control. Why is this truth so important for new moms? We live in a culture of fear: fear for our kids’ safety, fear that we won’t measure up as parents, fear that our children will flunk life, etc. And retailers prey on that fear. So we are surrounded by magazines and books and websites that try to sell us things to give us a false feeling of control. But the truth is, every day I have to unclench my fist and release Micah into the care of the One who made him in the first place. And that’s hard. But if I can practice it now, I can do it when Micah walks out the door with the car keys. Hopefully.

What encouragement would you provide to the new mom who is overwhelmed and feeling lost? You are not alone. Lots of moms, including me, fall into the trap of presenting ourselves as totally together—which just perpetuates that feeling of isolation, like you’re the only one flunking motherhood. But we are all there, sister. I’m sitting here at my laptop unshowered with no idea what to make for dinner tonight, checking my phone fifty-seven times a minute to make sure Micah’s day care isn’t texting me about some crisis. So we’re in this together. And meanwhile, we have a God who holds us and our children in the palm of his hand, who isn’t particularly concerned that the same load of laundry has been in the washer for three days. We rest in grace.

In your book, you say that “motherhood is itself a spiritual discipline.” What do you mean by this? Christians often talk about certain spiritual actions or practices that bring us into the presence of God, that deepen our relationship with Jesus. We talk about Bible study, prayer, worship, serving others, etc. But through motherhood, I’ve realized that we can also seek God in the everyday ordinariness of caregiving. The working class, the poor, the enslaved, and illiterate Christians have been doing this for centuries without ten minutes each morning to pray or read Scripture. It is not beneath us to pray while folding laundry. In fact, there is a sense in which having such focus requires more discipline. If we let God in, motherhood can help us grow stronger spiritual muscles and become more like Jesus.

You endeavor to help moms cultivate “awareness of God’s presence in the small things, in the daily tasks of caring for infants.” Can you provide an example of this? It was my husband who began praying for my son’s body while giving him a bottle—since there isn’t much else to do besides sit there. He prays for Micah’s little feet, that he will stand strong in the Lord; for his legs, that he will walk with Jesus all his days; for his stomach, that he will “feed” on God’s Word; etc.—all the way up. Rather than texting or talking on the phone or checking Facebook, we can take those moments and turn our thoughts toward God.

In your book, you say that the idea of being a new mother “both exhilarates and terrifies me.” Can you explain what you mean by this? Motherhood is exhilarating because it’s a new adventure, a new challenge (for those who like such things), a chance to do something deeply and eternally meaningful. But it’s also terrifying—for all those same reasons. Adventures are difficult. They hurt, they change us, and not always for the better. And what if we mess things up? A whole new generation of humans will have us to thank for their years of therapy. But even deeper, there’s the reality of loss. We don’t want to look down the years (or sooner) and see the inevitable goodbye. And yet we have a God who, as a Parent, knows all those joys and heartbreaks.

As a new mom, what is the best advice or encouragement that you have received? Go easy on yourself. Nobody cares that you haven’t showered. Really. And if they do, hand them the baby and say, “Thank you for helping.” Then soak in the tub for a long, long time. Because someday soon our kids will start to pick up on the fact that we really don’t mean it when we claim God is in control. But he is.

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Comments

  1. Awesome review! Thanks for your thoughts on this book.

    Just wanted to share…

    I have numerous book giveaways going on at my site if you want to enter.

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  2. Dorothea Reta says:

    Thanks for making a point!

  3. This book sounds beautiful. I’m always in favor of things that encourage and help mothers in their journey.

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